Letting Go to Grow: The Power of Appreciation and Self-Love
Liz Kaisinger 
Explore how letting go, self-love, and mindfulness can help you move from burnout to balance and reclaim your personal power.
Letting Go to Grow:
The Power of Appreciation and Self-Love
So many of us are living in a constant state of rush — juggling responsibilities, caring for everyone else, and losing touch with the quiet voice within. We call it stress, burnout, or overwhelm, but at its core, it’s a disconnection from appreciation and self-love — the very energies that connect us to our source, our peace, and our wholeness.
As women, we’ve been conditioned to keep going, to hold everything together, to do more and be more for everyone else. But when we live in that constant state of doing, we forget how to simply be. We lose sight of the truth that our worth isn’t measured by how much we accomplish, but by how deeply we connect — to ourselves, to others, and to life itself.
Lately, I’ve been exploring what it truly means to surrender — to let go of old patterns and masks that no longer fit, and to open to a new way of being. It’s been a process of remembering that I am not broken, that I don’t need fixing. I am whole, and I choose to grow.
Surrendering to Wholeness
I used to believe that growth meant fixing what was wrong. But lately, I’ve realized that growth is simply allowing what’s true. Appreciation and self-love aren’t just feel-good ideas — they’re energetic practices that bring us closer to our natural state of peace.
When I slow down enough to notice the small things — the warmth of my coffee cup, the way the morning light hits the trees, the quiet rhythm of my breath — I feel connected to something greater. That’s what I mean when I say appreciation and self-love are the closest thing to source energy. They open the door to freedom from attachment, to radical self-acceptance, to peace.
In my breathwork practice recently, I set the intention to release resistance — to ask myself, Where do I need to surrender in order to be open and to just be? The answer that came was simple but profound: Open to appreciation. Open to self-love. Open to acceptance.
Surrender, I’m learning, isn’t about giving up. It’s about opening up. It’s about trusting that we can let go of what no longer serves us — the old stories, the outdated programming, the masks we wear to feel safe or successful — and still be secure. Real security doesn’t come from control; it comes from connection.
The Mind’s Resistance
Of course, the mind doesn’t always like this process. My ego still tries to protect me with familiar stories: You’ve tried this before. It won’t last. You’ll fall back into old habits.
Sound familiar? The ego loves to keep us safe in the known, even when the known is uncomfortable. It resists change because change feels uncertain. But every time I notice those thoughts and make a different choice — even a tiny one — I reclaim a little more of my power.
Sometimes that looks like choosing to get up instead of hitting snooze. Sometimes it’s catching myself when I start judging someone in my mind and choosing compassion instead. Sometimes it’s simply pausing before reaching for food I don’t really want, and asking, What am I actually hungry for right now?
These small, conscious choices are how we begin to rewire our energy. They’re how we move from reacting to responding, from autopilot to awareness.
Byron Katie’s Loving What Is has been such a helpful mirror for me in this process. Her simple question — Whose business am I in? Mine, someone else’s, or God’s (or the Universe’s, or nature’s)? — has helped me notice when my ego is running the show. It’s a gentle reminder to return to the present moment, to my own experience, to what’s actually true right now.
And Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory” has offered another layer of freedom: let people be who they are. Let them think what they think, do what they do. The more I practice letting others be, the more I realize how much energy I free up to focus on my own alignment.
Learning to Walk Again
This journey feels a bit like learning to walk again — like a baby taking her first steps. It takes patience, gentleness, and a beginner’s mind. I’m learning how to think, act, and experience life in a new way.
There are days when I stumble. Days when the old programming feels louder than the new awareness. But even then, I remind myself that growth isn’t linear — it’s cyclical, like the seasons. Every time I come back to appreciation, I find my footing again.
I’ve been experimenting with a new way of writing affirmations, one that feels more believable to my mind. Instead of saying, I am disciplined or I am consistent, I start with a question: Why is it so easy for me to stay consistent with my practices? That small shift invites curiosity and appreciation instead of resistance. It helps me feel into the possibility that it really can be easy.
Because the truth is, our thoughts, emotions, and actions are all energy. The vibration we hold becomes the vibration we live in. When we practice appreciation, we raise that vibration naturally. We don’t have to force positivity — we simply align with it.
Small Daily Practices, Big Shifts
Transformation doesn’t require massive effort or endless time. It happens in the small, consistent moments — the times we choose presence over distraction, compassion over criticism, breath over busyness.
A few minutes of mindfulness each day can change everything.
A short body scan before bed can reset your nervous system.
A moment of gratitude in the middle of chaos can shift your entire energy.
These tiny practices are the bridge between doing and being. They help us move out of the noise of the mind and into the stillness of the heart. And when we start to live from that place — even for a few moments a day — we begin to see life differently. We notice the beauty in the ordinary. We feel more grounded, more peaceful, more ourselves.
That’s what holistic wellness is really about. It’s not about perfection or performance — it’s about presence. It’s about honoring your body, mind, emotions, and energy as one integrated system. When we nurture all of those layers, we return to balance. We return home to ourselves.
Becoming Who We Choose to Be
I am not who I was. I am who I choose to become.
That’s the mantra that’s been guiding me lately.
Every small act of awareness, every moment of appreciation, every breath of self-love — it all adds up. It all shapes the woman I’m becoming. And the most beautiful part is that I don’t have to rush the process. I can trust that I can trust that every step, even the wobbly ones, are part of the unfolding. Growth doesn’t mean striving to reach some perfect version of myself; it means allowing the version that’s already within me to emerge.
When I pause long enough to appreciate the journey — not just the milestones — I realize that peace isn’t something I have to chase. It’s something I can choose, moment by moment. It’s in the quiet mornings when I breathe before the day begins. It’s in the simple act of cleaning up someone else’s spill and choosing gratitude instead of irritation. It’s in the moments I help someone see something new about themselves, and I feel that spark of connection and possibility.
That’s what it means to live in alignment — to meet life as it is, with openness and curiosity, and to remember that every experience, even the uncomfortable ones, can be a teacher.
An Invitation to Begin
We don’t need to do more to become whole — we simply need to remember who we already are. Appreciation and self-love aren’t luxuries; they’re lifelines. They bring us back to our source, to the energy of peace and presence that has always been within us.
If you’re feeling the call to slow down, to reconnect with yourself, to remember your own wholeness, I invite you to begin with something small. A few mindful breaths. A moment of gratitude. A gentle body scan before bed.
To support you, I’ve created a Mindfulness Challenge — a simple, daily practice to help you return to yourself in just a few minutes a day. It will fully support you in practicing various types of mindfulness, and incorporating it into your day - A $21 investment for 21 days of practices, lifetime access and lots of bonus content.
You can also explore my Guided Body Scan Meditation, a soothing way to reconnect with your body, release tension, and invite calm into your nervous system. This is a free, 10 minute downloadable meditation and energy reset to support rejuvenating sleep.
And if you’re ready to go deeper — to explore what wellness truly means for you — I’d love to support you personally. Sometimes working with someone one-on-one can be the bridge between knowing what we want to change and actually living it. In my work as a holistic wellness and mindset coach, mindfulness teacher, and energy practitioner, I help women redefine wellness on their own terms, release old patterns, and reclaim their personal power.
Whether we meet in person or virtually, our work together is about helping you reconnect to your own energy, your truth, and your innate ability to heal and grow. It’s not about fixing what’s broken — it’s about remembering that you were never broken to begin with.
These small, intentional moments — whether through your own practice or guided support — are where transformation begins. They’re how we move from rushing to receiving, from doing to being, from self-criticism to self-love.
So today, take a breath. Place a hand on your heart. Whisper to yourself:
I am not broken. I am whole. I choose to grow.
And let that be enough.
You don’t have to do this alone.
Whether you’re ready to begin or simply curious, reach out and let’s talk about how we can create space for your next chapter.